Messages

You ever feel like you are receiving messages that you don't want to? I'm always a bit reluctant to trust myself completely when I start thinking that I should take anything personally since I have a tendency to jump to the worst conclusion first. It's just my nature, I grew up in a situation where words were weighted so I learned to weigh other's words. I have found as I've gotten older that not everyone has hidden meanings behind their words. But some do. I have also learned that actions really DO speak louder than words. But inaction is the most powerful message.

So many people are afraid of confrontation or afraid to say how they really feel. We are so afraid of the inner shadow--we think if we let it out or even admit that it's there that people won't like us or worse...we won't like ourselves. We will mess up our story. We want to believe that we are ALL good and everyone else is the bad guy. Truth is, we are all good and we are all bad and it really doesn't matter anyway. As I say over and over in yoga, nothing is stagnant, everything changes, you cannot balance if you are unmoving. Yin and Yang is not just a symbol. You cannot know the dark without knowing the light.

One of the first things they teach you in parenting classes (yes, they do exist) is to focus on the person, not on their behavior. Because the behavior changes, good choices come, bad choices are made, but the person--the Soul remains the same. The Essence, the Spirit, has nothing to do with actions, it is the witness, the one who watches. The more you can step into the witness, detach from the behavior of yourselves and others, the easier it is to receive the message. Doesn't mean that insensitivity or inaction or actions of others won't hurt, but if you focus too long on the hurt, you will miss the intention of the message.

You know, none of this is easy. And none of it is supposed to be. If everything is easy, we coast. When it gets tough, action is required. The only way to know right action is to step out of the situation. To witness, to take away the labels of good and bad, right and wrong and stay detached.

For as long as it takes...for as long as it takes. I know something big is trying to come through right now. There is much sadness. I must sit with it. This is why they call it practice.

Inaction speaks louder than words.